Friday, August 20, 2010

Thinking About Attaining My Goals

I think everyone who is working toward a tangible goal wonders what it will feel like when it is reached. I certainly think about it from time to time. I know that some people think that somehow their life will change when there hair is such and such a length, and of course, that doesn't happen. It's like thinking that if you get that new perfume, life will somehow change. It's just an illusion.

My realistic goal is waist length and my dream length is tail bone, about six inches longer than that. I wonder if I will feel good about reaching my goal and be able to see that it truly is as long as it is.

I so often see people reach a goal and still feel that their hair is short. Sometimes our view gets skewed, and we don't see our hair the way others do. I can't tell you how often I've seen people reach a goal at the LHC and yet feel dissatisfied. Even more interesting is that sometimes I see people reach their goals and immediately cut their hair off to above shoulder length. I don't understand that, and usually the people who do it don't explain why.

I would love to understand that phenomenon. Is it a case of just wanting to see if one can do it and then once it's done, it's all over?

I hope that when I reach waist length, where I'm fairly sure I will maintain until my "breakage layer" is gone, that I still feel excited by my hair. I hope that even if and when I reach my dream goal, I will keep going by constantly trying to maintain my hair's health and hopefully keep improving the hemline. There will always be new hairstyles to try and I can challenge myself that way.

The way I look at it now, there is no real final goal; I am sure that I can make new goals of improvement, if not of length, indefinitely.

I really don't want to be one of the people who gets where I want to go, only to find that I have grown disenchanted with my hair after spending so much time getting there.

On another note, thank you to everyone who wished me well yesterday. I wish I could tell you that I feel better today, but I don't. I really would like to feel better for the weekend and the coming week, especially with my husband being on holidays.

Well, I have one or two small tasks to do now, and then I shall relax for the rest of the day, again in hopes of transcending this migraine siege.

'Til tomorrow. Much love to all.


  1. I'm sorry that you're not feeling better. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

  2. My goal is definitely waist length. My first goal was shoulder and I believe I have reached that (at least I think my length is considered shoulder??) Franny, I think once you reach your goal you will be even more inspired to keep growing to your dream length. You are a long haired girl through and through, this is very obvious to those of us who visit your blog. I plan to grow along with you, although you will surely beat me to waist length LOL!! I hope you feel better in the morning.

  3. Good evening Franny,
    Sorry to read you're still not feeling better, can't imagine how awful it must be to have those migranes.

    I've been through so much trial & ERROR with my hair,that I've made up my mind this time, BSL with no layers is my personal goal. Something special for me & me alone, what I desperately want is to be able to wear those gorgeous updos & with your help, I hope to achieve it. I tend to get to shoulder length & then chop, well no more of that!

    Sorry about the long comment, tend to get carried away with myself, especially the subject of hair.

    Take care, & feel better soon.

  4. I've given up on hair goals. I've been battling to avoid coloring of late. Honestly, Franny, I wish I could have pretty hair. You've always approached it with such zest and your hair shows the love, my friend.

  5. Dear Franny:

    I'm sorry to hear that you still have a migraine:-(



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